I'd like to offer some advice which
hopefully will enable your child to continue with his playing. He has done
very well up to this point. He is learning a specialist skill, it is
hard. Learning how to play at home is also hard. It's a universal
skill though, which can be applied to anything the student wishes to
become strong at. It will greatly assist in his ability to
independently learn. If the environment is right the student will develop their playing at
home and at the same time begin to use some very important independence
skills.
At home the student himself must take
responsibility for their playing and not the parent. Reward and play are very important themes here. I remind students
to reward themselves for putting the time in: something simple like
making your favourite sandwich or something similar. I let students
know that playing at home means your rewarded twice because the
instrument, over time, sounds better,
The role of the parent is to allow the
student to implement their own practice routine. Praising the child
for doing the practice is a good thing. It reinforces the reward.
Refrain from commenting on the quality of the music, unless it is
something praiseworthy. In essence, the parent needs to step back and
allow the student to have good weeks of practice and not so good
weeks of practice. Do not over remind the student to practice. This
can become negative and stressful. Instead ask how the practice routine is going?
Within the first few minutes of the
lesson with me it is very clear how well the student has practiced. It is my
role to encourage and motivate the student to reflect on their playing
and to try and get it closer to the practice model I have showed
them. I go over the 'new stuff' and review earlier material. I need
to provide an atmosphere where the student feels OK to say how well
their playing is going. I can then help them.
Please remember that it is better for the student to keep on going and have a few poor weeks of practice than to stop. The dream or desire to play is a long term thing. The skill of practicing, and the motivation to do it, take time to grow. They are not natural.